People are responding in email so going to post some of these anonymously as they are gold (I took some personal identifying details out):
"Love them all but this piece really resonated with me how this overlaps with the healing world and narrative that we must heal to some unrealistic point and until then we feel broken or less than. That idea and the idea that discomfort can be helpful in growth really connected with me today. Love you molly and all your curiosity and wisdom!!!!!!"
"Growing my capacity for discomfort has been one of the most surprising benefits of my journey as a practitioner and student of sound healing. It’s pretty wild, when those two crystal bowls create a dissonance that makes one eye want to squint and yet I can take a deep breath and be with that sensation. Or when the drumming from my friend is so piercing that I feel like it’s banging my head, but I can be with that too. Because soon enough, it passes and it’s onto more soothing sounds and I have a lived experience that I can tolerate the discomfort. It’s all been so helpful for my ability to tolerate the impossible in my “co-parenting while healing and growing myself. I always appreciate your perspective on things and the work you do.”
"So poignant as always, Molly! 🙏🏽💐
I think about those things a lot. Especially when it comes to pushing my daughter (or over-pushing myself). Tough questions indeed. Apparently in the ease comes expansion… but it seems the opposite is also true. So many mixed messages out there! I guess the answer lies within us, and probably varies situation to situation. Grateful for you and your words!"
I’ve been pondering this and i think we are wrong in both generations. Balance is needed…i don’t know if it is 50/50 but it might be. I have always worn my ability to overcome as a badge of honor and it has led me to become overly self-reliant, toxically resilient, unable to receive which i don’t think is uncommon for those of us in our 40’s/50’s. That being said i fully agree that an extra large helping of ease stifles growth, broad connection, and understanding. We need do find the happy path of facing the challenges we are presented with head on but maybe not spending so much time seeking out new ones. Embracing the periods of ease as well deserved opportunities for rest and recharge not softness.
People are responding in email so going to post some of these anonymously as they are gold (I took some personal identifying details out):
"Love them all but this piece really resonated with me how this overlaps with the healing world and narrative that we must heal to some unrealistic point and until then we feel broken or less than. That idea and the idea that discomfort can be helpful in growth really connected with me today. Love you molly and all your curiosity and wisdom!!!!!!"
"Growing my capacity for discomfort has been one of the most surprising benefits of my journey as a practitioner and student of sound healing. It’s pretty wild, when those two crystal bowls create a dissonance that makes one eye want to squint and yet I can take a deep breath and be with that sensation. Or when the drumming from my friend is so piercing that I feel like it’s banging my head, but I can be with that too. Because soon enough, it passes and it’s onto more soothing sounds and I have a lived experience that I can tolerate the discomfort. It’s all been so helpful for my ability to tolerate the impossible in my “co-parenting while healing and growing myself. I always appreciate your perspective on things and the work you do.”
"So poignant as always, Molly! 🙏🏽💐
I think about those things a lot. Especially when it comes to pushing my daughter (or over-pushing myself). Tough questions indeed. Apparently in the ease comes expansion… but it seems the opposite is also true. So many mixed messages out there! I guess the answer lies within us, and probably varies situation to situation. Grateful for you and your words!"
I’ve been pondering this and i think we are wrong in both generations. Balance is needed…i don’t know if it is 50/50 but it might be. I have always worn my ability to overcome as a badge of honor and it has led me to become overly self-reliant, toxically resilient, unable to receive which i don’t think is uncommon for those of us in our 40’s/50’s. That being said i fully agree that an extra large helping of ease stifles growth, broad connection, and understanding. We need do find the happy path of facing the challenges we are presented with head on but maybe not spending so much time seeking out new ones. Embracing the periods of ease as well deserved opportunities for rest and recharge not softness.
Yes, beautifully said!